When you’ve had your fair share of mistakes committed in the relationships you’ve been in, chances are you learn what relationship rules there are and do your best to live by them. But let’s face it. Most of these pieces of advice are obsolete and aren’t fit to all the kinds of situations you can find yourself in, making it only wise for you to kick them to the curb.
1. Wait for him to make the first move.
Whether that’s in bed or in any matter about your relationship, the better rule that shows how much of a grown-ass woman you are is if you feel like doing it, let nothing stop you. Don’t wait for him to do all things first every time.
2. Be each other’s best friends.
While it’s true that best friends are the first people you go to when you’re in trouble and you need a helping hand, best friends don’t f*ck each other. So unless you’d be OK with not being able to sext and have sex with your guy, then stick to being his girlfriend only.
3. Be 100 percent honest with one another.
Telling your boyfriend how he’s a bad kisser or how you hate his fashion choices for honesty’s sake isn’t going to make your relationship last. So if you want to be with him for as long as possible, remember that the concept of no-holds-barred honesty should only apply to you and your pet.
4. Never go to bed angry.
Staying up so you can resolve your issues with your boyfriend when you know you’re not in the best state of mind isn’t the move of a wise, grown-up woman. Instead, jump to bed and sleep on it so you can save yourself and your boyfriend from unnecessary drama and sleep deprivation. You’ll be surprised how much wiser you’ll act when you’ve had a good night’s sleep.
Even couples in the longest and strongest relationships have their fair share of fights, petty and huge. But that doesn’t mean you should fight with your boyfriend about every matter where your points of view don’t mesh. Fights can be draining and exhausting and they aren’t as healthy as most people think. More importantly, there are far better and wiser ways to solve your issues.
6. Give ultimatums when necessary.
Asking your significant other to choose between you or his mother, buddy, dog, or other things you believe are more important to him than you may seem like the right thing to do, but don’t be fooled. Doing so only pressures him into doing something he doesn’t really want to do, and he may resent you for that. Is that a situation you’d love to find yourself in?
7. Play hard to get.
Your boyfriend’s brain has been hardwired to love the chase, but for sure he’s told you at one point that it’s not always fun to deal with you when you’re playing your hard-to-get card. This doesn’t mean you should make everything easy to get for him. He still has to work for some things, but be available for him when you really are.
8. Never schedule sex.
Because YOLO, you should have sex with your boyfriend anytime, anywhere. This idea is really hot, but then becomes too hot to handle when life happens. So before you become a victim of life’s insufferable sense of timing, schedule time for that much-needed pillow talk and cuddling session.