Good friends come and go, but sometimes you can just tell that you’ve found your lifelong partner in crime. This isn’t your husband. This isn’t your boyfriend. She’s bigger than that. She’s your best friend, and she’s your everything.
Here’s how you know you’ve been blessed to find her:
You have fun doing absolutely nothing.
You don’t need to plan big outings when you get together. Hell, you don’t even have to go out. You can talk for hours on end about nothing and everything, laughing at shared experiences and doing some soul searching along the way. Sometimes you don’t even need to say real words to communicate, because you’ve spent so much time together that you’ve literally developed your own special language. At some point, people will joke that you must be dating, and you’ll just look at each other and laugh. But somehow, when you’re together doing absolutely nothing, time flies impossibly fast and suddenly hours have passed but there was nothing else you would have rather been doing. Because with her, you’re perfectly content.
There is no such thing as a comfort zone with her.
Like a sister, she’s seen it all. You know there’s nothing you couldn’t ask her for, and no topic you couldn’t talk about. Even if it’s uncomfortable, even if it might hurt, you trust that you will always tell each other the truth, because you’re comfortable with her knowing everything. You want her to know everything, because she’s the only one who will understand all of you. You’re not hesitant to ask her for help – when you’re struggling, when you’re sick, when you need to figure out life – because there’s nothing she wants more than to take care of you, and be there for you.
She tells you that you’re beautiful every day, and she’s the only one who makes you believe it’s true.
She’s seen you when you’re beautiful, she’s seen you when you’re hot, and she’s seen you the other six days of the week when you have to choose between brushing your teeth and wearing a matching outfit. But when she tells you you’re beautiful she’s not just talking about the outside. She knows you – the silly parts and the stubborn parts and the dark and twisty parts. She’s seen all of you, and tells you every day what a beautiful person you are. Because only she says it with the most honest look in her eye.
You can’t wait until her Big Day.
Sure, you may joke with a lot of people about how they’ll be there on your wedding day, but you know this is different. You’re planning out which inside jokes will be seamlessly incorporated into your maid of honor speech, because even then you’ll still have your own special form of communication. You’ve cried about how happy you’ll be when she finally finds the person she’ll marry, and how you’ll slap her if he’s anything less than she deserves. And how you’ll love him for loving her and secretly hate him just a little because well she’s your person.
You anticipate being in each other’s lives till the very end.
There may be times when you drift apart ever so slightly, but you have no doubt that your friendship will survive anything (past experiences may hurt but they only brought you closer). You look forward to getting to know her a little better every day for the rest of forever, and can’t wait to take on this journey with her. You can’t wait to experience her happiness. And you’ll be there too in the bitter and sad times, when you curse the world and whoever or whatever the fuck made her feel this way. But you find such comfort in the fact that this person, who knows you almost as well as you know yourself, will be right there beside you, figuratively or literally, as you both figure out life and love and yourselves together.
We encounter many different types of love throughout our lives, but none is quite so unique and fulfilling as the love we feel toward our person. None so unconditional, none so everlasting, none so comforting. At the end of the day, she’s always the one you’ll turn to. Because she’s your person. She’s your everything.