In order to achieve our goals, we need to change our behavior, and eventually become a better version of ourselves.
Because right now we’re not ready for it yet, we haven’t developed the needed habits, haven’t eliminated some unhealthy and unproductive activities, and have so many distractions that we hardly know what’s really important.
But achieving what you want is absolutely possible. You just need to fall in love with consistency and start taking a step each day towards reaching your goals.
And you need to eliminate the things that not only slow your progress, but which keep you from moving forward.
Here they are:
So many people have deep desires within themselves and truly want to achieve certain things in life. But they are greedy and unappreciative even before they receive them, and want much more than they deserve.
Many, for instance, want not just to be offered a good job with a high salary and work hard to make money and increase the quality of their life, but they want to be rich, and they want it now.
That’s a wrong approach.
Because, first you need to be grateful for what you already have (and no matter how little that is, believe me, others have much less and still find the will to thank for it).
Only then will you feel some abundance and will realize that you have the power to turn it into something more. And you’ll feel the need to work for that, to give something in return and to then enjoy the fruits of your labor.
That’s how you can eliminate perfectionism from your life and still achieve what you want.
We have a wrong perception of what failure is these days.
Most people fear it, they don’t even try because of the chance of not succeeding. And that’s why they never see their dreams come true.
The truth is, failure is a precious gift. It’s an inevitable step on your way to success, and a step you need to take more than once.
It’s the proof that you’re trying, you’re doing something to get what you want, and you’re not giving up.
It’s followed by lessons and experience, and it makes you stronger, with more willpower, more focused. It shows you what exactly not to do next time, because it didn’t work out this time.
And if you keep trying, eventually you’ll get there.
There’s no better example than Thomas Edison – his whole life is a proof of the power of failure and how you can work with it for optimum success.
3. Focusing on the end result
I know you’re eager to reach your goals. There’s just something inside us that makes us impatient and whatever it is that we want, we want it right away.
But you also need to realize that things just don’t work that way. And the best you can do is enjoy the process and focus less on the end result.
4. Taking big steps
There’s a certain path you’ll need to walk before you get there. And its purpose is to make you strong enough to handle the success that’s waiting for you.
That path consists of many steps. Small ones – because the big ones make us worry, fear and not even try.
So divide your goals into small steps, then into even smaller, until you have a list of simple tasks to do each day. And make them so easy and quick that it will be impossible to say no.
You may often hear yourself say some of the following:
I’m not ready;
It’s not the right time;
I’m not good enough;
I’m too old/young;
I don’t have enough money/time/experience;
Most people don’t succeed anyway, neither will I;
Maybe I’m not meant to do it;
It’s too hard;
It will take too long;
I may do it wrong;
People will laugh at me;
When that happens, stop and reflect on why you’re saying this.
Realize that your mind is tricky and prefers to stay in its comfort zone, doing the same old activities and tasks on autopilot, and not try anything new. That’s why it’s making up all these excuses, that can often sound quite convincing.
Your job is to eliminate them, to even exaggerate them and see how ridiculous they sound. Because if you choose the other option – if you believe them – you’ll never do anything different with your life and will never see the things you desire come true.
It’s another thing that stops us from taking action towards our goals. So it’s another thing we need to give up.
Keep in mind one thing: now is the best time to do what you want, any other time is later than now.
The present moment is where you create your future and the only time you can be productive and work on what you believe in.
The only cure for procrastination is to start doing something immediately, without thinking and giving your mind time to come up with excuses. Without doubting your abilities and fearing failure.
Just do a little something today that will help you move forward and get closer to your dreams.
Stop expecting so much. It’s a destructive behavior that brings deep disappointment in your life.
You expect things to turn out in a certain way, you expect people to behave like you imagine them to, and whenever that doesn’t work out, you feel upset and lose any motivation to take action.
So ditch these fantasies you live in, eliminate the scenarios you play in your head of how things should be, and accept them as they are.
And meanwhile, keep doing what you know is right.
There will be people who will doubt you, who will make you lose hope if you listen to them.
There will be many temptations on your way to success, too. Many pleasant, but time-wasting, activities. And you’ll often feel that life is unfair because others have so much time, can eat whatever they want, can buy stuff, or else, and you can’t.
But that’s not true.
It’s just that you’ve chosen to work on your goals and strive for a better life, while others prefer the easier way of living – indulging in activities that only bring temporary happiness.
9. Lack of consistency
That’s a big one.
Because whatever you do, if you don’t do it each day, you won’t see any progress.
Consistency is trait of the successful people, and it becomes a habit, as everything else.
But without it, you won’t get far. So break your steps into smaller ones, make time each day, and find the will to get up and do this one thing.