According to a professional matchmaker. Finding true love takes time. Be patient.
Unsure if they’re the real deal? Matchmaker Renee Brown, explains the key qualities to look out for that will prove they’re in it for the long haul.
As a matchmaker, I work with people who are looking for love every day and I’m often asked what love actually looks or feels like once you’ve found it.
Finding true love is the ultimate gift. It’s free for anyone if they choose, but it can also come at a great cost. This kind of love doesn’t come easy, you need to earn it and be able to reciprocate it equally.
Ultimately, the more work you do on finding the love within yourself first will help amplify the chance of finding love within your significant other.
If you’ve met a special someone and are looking for signs that they’re the real deal, here’s 5 things to look out for:
1. They are patient
Just like the process of finding love, love itself should never leave you feeling rushed. Moving too fast is a sign that this is not the right relationship. Love is truly patient and will wait until the time is right. Talk, get to know each other and spend time feeling comfortable. Go at your own pace.
Take time to notice the little things that you do for one another. Does he open the door? Does she ask about your day? The little things mean a lot.
2. They are kind
Kindness is measurable. Does your date treat those around him or her with respect, do you feel an overwhelming sense of gratitude – a readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness. Anyone can purchase gifts and chocolates but they are soon gone. Kindness and respect mean a lot more when it comes unconditionally.
3. They are understanding
True love means that when your partner or your date has to cancel or tells you something you may not want to hear, there is understanding rather than anger. Sometimes life gets in the way. True love understands this and knows that there will be another opportunity to plan something amazing or that we do not have control over all aspects of life.
The loving partner will offer support if you need it and help you through difficult times.
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4. They are genuine
Love never wishes you ill. Your true love will always live to see you succeed. Your successes will make them truly happy just as theirs would. It is important to understand that at times in a relationship one walks while the other runs. If you are the one walking right now, hope for the best for your partner and in time it will be your turn.
5. They are loyal
Life throws many punches along the way. Loved ones pass, new loved ones arrive; houses are bought and sold. With each event there is stress and heartache or joy. Life is not easy. A true love will stand by your side through the good times and the bad. Love commits to be there with you regardless of circumstances, regardless of outcomes. Love is with you every step of the way.
Knowing you have found the one comes with a sense of certainty. You take your profile offline, update your Facebook status from “Single” to “In a Relationship” and start talking as “we” rather than “I”. You no longer have the desire to look at other people or ask questions, because you know you have found the one.